We’ve all seen them.
The bridezillas of the world. Whether watching them on the latest reality show
or encountering them in a bridal boutique, with their demanding and unrelenting
ways, they are hard to miss. Here are three attitudes that will discourage
others from wanting to participate in the big day:
In all truthfulness, the big day is one that should
be important to both youandthe groom. This day is also one that perhaps your
mother has dreamt about for some time or your dad has envisioned sharing that
special moment with you during the father-daughter dance at the reception.
Two of the most common complaints I hear from brides are “How
can I get everything done?” and “I’m so stressed!” While a certain level of
stress is to be expected, there are a number of ways to reduce some of the
anxiety associated with your big day.
It is so easy to get distracted while attempting to do a
task. For instance, you set out to contact a couple of DJs, but in the process,
you ended up looking at bouquets on Pinterest. To avoid this common pitfall,
make an effort to do nothing but say, contact DJs in your area.
“I’ll give you all of
me, and you give me all of you” John Legend promises his love in his latest
wedding song. Although romantically poetic, those of us who have been married
or in a long-term relationship for any length of time know that our best actions
are not always reciprocated in the way that we feel they were given. Take for
instance my most recent experience:
there I sat at a busy intersection in the middle of rush hour with an
overheated car, two crying babies, and an impatient five year old.
“If you can’t say
anything nice, don’t say anything at all,” my mother used to admonish me. This
is true in almost every other situation, but marriage. Sometimes, you have to
“put it all out there” and say what’s on your mind. “Don’t go to bed angry,” I was
advised at my bridal shower, but for years, I was master of the silent
treatment. If my husband said or did
something that I didn’t agree with, I would go days without speaking or say the
bare minimum, hoping that I could hold off long enough that he would beg me for
My grandparents recently celebrated their 60th
wedding anniversary. They had a blast re-living so many memories they had
shared together. As I looked over our large group of family members that
included their four sons and their spouses, three goddaughters, twenty
grandchildren, and nineteen great- grandchildren, I couldn’t help but realize that
this is what living and marriage is all about. It’s not about how much you spend
on a wedding, or if the guests will enjoy the calamari versus blackened salmon
more, or if you honeymooned on an exotic island.
Whether you are planning a wedding or party, you can count on the food to consume at least fifty percent of your budget. Because of this, you want to make sure that you are getting the most bang for your buck. Here are 5 tips to consider:
1. Lighten the Menu
If you are planning an early afternoon meal, you can cut costs by serving things like miniature sliders, salad, and fruit instead of a full course meal. For dessert, serve cupcakes or an elegant parfait or truffle. Another option is to serve appetizers such as cheese and crackers or kabobs.
When it comes to deciding on a venue, location is key. One important question to ask yourself- do I want the ceremony and reception at two separate locations or at one site? There are advantages and disadvantages associated with both options. Here are a few other factors to keep in mind when choosing the perfect bridal real estate.
1. Consider your guests.
Besides finding a venue that is within your budget, accommodates your guest count, and provides the services you need, you should also consider how far the venue is from the interstate and guests' hotels.
So you've met Mr. Right and he swept you off your feet, popped the question, and gave you a gorgeous ring; and now it's time to plan one of the most important days of your life. Even though most women have dreamed of their wedding day since childhood, reality sets in and suddenly you are bombarded with decisions about save-the-dates, flowers, choosing a venue, and much more. It's no wonder many brides become overwhelmed! One thing to keep in mind is that not all the major decisions have to be made at one time.